Making Your Relationship Last Longer - Things to Avoid

By Tina L. Jones

Have you ever been in a long time relationship? Do you want to maintain your current relationship? Do you want it to last long, and hopefully forever? There are things that men seek in a relationship. Something that they can hold on to and help keep the fire burning. Also, there are things that drives them away. Learn some the things that turn away most men.

Know what men like in the relationship. Know what makes them happy and contented. It is something that you should continue to build upon as the relationship progresses. But be careful not to overdo it. Know the proper way of maintaining it and do not be over zealous as well.

This is also important. You should know the difference between showing your affection from suffocating him. There is a very thin line between the two. Wanting to see him everyday does not mean that you really love him. Having moments worth remembering each time you are together is. Spend more quality with him rather than just spending the whole day together. Learn to make him miss you every once in a while. As it is often said, absence makes the heart grow ponder.

It takes a while for men to really want to stay in a relationship. He takes things seriously and has to think over a number of times to sort things out. Do not take the short-cut route. Use the stairs rather than the elevator. Men prefer that. They like taking each step at a time slowly but surely. Learn to walk with him each stride at a time.

Avoid making him feel insecure. That is one of the things men do not like feeling. Try to avoid making senseless comments that will have him thinking otherwise. Try to pamper his ego. But again, do not overdo it. He might feel irritated if you keep on bringing it to his face. Again, timing is everything.

Lastly, make him feel that he is in control. Men are control freaks. They want to be in command of every situation possible. They need to feel that you are following his lead and not the other way around. Do this but still maintain your say in the relationship. Do not ask him for decisions that you need to make for yourself. He trusts you that you can handle it by yourself. Only seek his advice if the decision will affect the relationship.

Follow these guidelines and be prepared to embark in a long-term relationship. It is not perfect but it will surely help you in achieving your goal. Just remember, do not overdo it and timing is everything.


This article is contributed by Tina Jones from the Unforgettable Woman Publishing Team. She works together with founder Alexandra Fox and writes dating/relationship articles for women. You can find more about Unforgettable Woman Publishing by visiting their website.